Tuesday, August 13, 2013

The ABC's of Parenting



Recently, I attended a Family Talk forum sponsored by Philam Life. The main speaker, Ms. Maribel Sison, the founder of Love Institute talked about valuable tips on parenting and effective home management.

So I am sharing the ABC's of Parenting to you guys, who are parents (like myself!) , soon-to-be parents and those will be parents in the future. I find this very insightful and a great reminder to us when work and routine of house chores get the best of us.

ATTENTION GIVING

- Have a REGULAR FUN TIME with each child.
- Have a weekly date day with EACH child

BUILDS SELF WORTH

- Affirm positive qualities, catch child doing good and SAY it
- ENCOURAGEMENT is given for effort and improvement.

COMMUNICATES REGULARLY & WELL

Listen well: "You sound angry that you did not get to the top of the monkey bars?"
Speak well in a friendly tone "I am confident you will get it with practice and patience. Do you want to try?"

DISCIPLINES WITH LOVE

-Mean to TEACH and to INSTRUCT. It is not punishment.
-Agree on HOUSE RULES for the child/children then implement
-Spanking, shouting, threatening, or bribing may not work.
-Offer choices within limits
-HOUSE RULES: TV/computer time, Allowance, Study Time

    If agreements are not met, then use:

       NATURAL CONSEQUENCE - Does not eat, child goes hungry.
       LOGICAL CONSEQUENCE - Loses book, child pays for it.

ENHANCES COUPLE OR INDIVIDUAL RELATIONSHIP

-CALENDAR: Have a ONCE a week date with your spouse/self
-CARING: Doing and showing thoughtful acts
-COMMUNICATION: Kind and loving words of affirmation

FINANCIALLY RESPONSIBLE

-Financial responsibility to the self, spouse and children
-FAMILY Mission statement, annual plans, budget for couple and children
-Simplify lifestyle with kids. Live within one's means to have a FAMILY life.
-Correct financial mindset: Income- Savings = Expenses